Do you have a "Kid X"?
Surprising anger instigatorsMost moms have at least a little trouble battling the temper--I know I did! As a mom of four (now grown) children, I'm here to say I earned the "angry mom" badge many a day! Sometimes there are underlying reasons for anger that are wrong--surprising anger instigators! For example, these can emerge in the form of our own personality clones. One of my children, Kid X, was almost a carbon copy of myself. This means that when Kid X sometimes got on my nerves, Kid X didn't necessarily get on anyone else’s nerves. However, because Kid X had my personality, I recognized my mirrored faults.
Do you have a Kid X? Since studying the subject of anger closely, I realized I snapped only because Kid X got on my nerves, not because Kid X had done something that needed corrected. This can also happen with your polar opposite Kid X. We have a tendency to let trivial characteristics of our people annoy us, and therefore control our anger. Sometimes, simply because they do something that grates on our ever-lovin’ nerves, yet not necessarily something that deserves correction, we blow. Perhaps it does need corrected, but we need to go about it without anger – or be careful not to let anger turn to wrath. Some wrong reasons for anger listed in the Word are: Jealousy Pride Fear Frustration Self-pity.
If you have been foolish in exalting yourself or if you have been devising evil, PUT YOUR HAND ON YOUR MOUTH. Proverbs 30:32 (ESV)Quite appropriate, yes?
Here’s the background: In the beginning of Proverbs, Wisdom calls and raises her voice, crying out:
How long, you simple ones, will you love simplicity (no knowledge or implementing of wisdom for victory), For scorners delight in their scorning (“there’s no way anyone could handle this mess without screaming!”) And fools HATE knowledge” (“I’ll just stay with my habits, thank you.” Or, “I can’t stop yelling; it’s impossible.”) (Proverbs 1:20-22, NKJV)HOWEVER, in the very next verse, we read HOPE! Notice this:
If you turn at my reproof, behold, I will pour out my spirit to you; I will make my words known to you. (vs. 23, ESV)Mom, you have the tools to handle this. The believer possesses: God’s Spirit God’s Word Access to God God’s Power Other believer's support So, let’s make this practical. Next time you are angry, put your hand to your mouth. Just try it. We need to produce ACTIONABLE application of God’s Word. We need to apply wisdom. It’s not a cure-all. But it does provide a positive way to react. It’s an actionable, measurable step toward correction and redirection. Does this sound like a quick fix? Somewhat of a superficial band aid to get you through maybe one or two squabbles? It takes more than just a few tips to curb anger, doesn't it? The preceding devotional is just a snippet of a book I wrote on mommy anger. It's called, COUNT TO NINE; 9 Liberating Steps for Mommy Anger and Frustration.
I wrote this book because as a mom of four myself, I dealt with a LOT of anger down through the rearing years, and I struggled to handle it well. As I seek to mentor younger moms, I notice this same pattern emerging. A battle with anger-induced rage. And these moms want change. My new ebook, Count to Nine, 9 Liberating Steps for Mom Anger and Frustration, presents nine essential steps to overcome mishandled anger. Offering *Scripture Pillars, Power-Packed Pillar Prayers, a Plan of Action for each chapter, and much more, this book will set you on the road towards recovery. The book is full of key Biblical strategies to help you parent gracefully and learn the Biblical approach to anger. How do I know? I teach this method to a group of moms who are tracking wins and overcoming their anger by daily implementing these Scriptural strategies! This book is a small investment to make toward a big difference in the dynamic of your family. Are you ready to take the necessary steps to freedom from the power of anger gone wrong? You can do this, mom. Let me show you how through COUNT TO NINE. At just $7.00, this ebook is an affordable investment toward not only developing positive reactions to anger, but patterning them for your children as well! How about it mom? Do you have a "Kid X"? Have you noticed your temper flaring simply because you dislike a trait he possesses that is similar to something you struggle with? I’m praying for you!
PS: As an extra BONUS to the book, we've included a beautiful, printable journal with Scripture cards and Thankful cards, designed by my friend Jessica through her Etsy shop! You will love this actionable, gorgeous addition to the book! Grab your copy today!