Saturday, February 6, 2016

After I Do - When Things Get Messy

This post originally appeared on Life with Mrs. G & the Artist for the writer's After I Do series.. I wanted to share it with my readers too because I had a blast putting together a post sharing all of Coxy's messy ways. I hope you enjoy it! 

My husband and I have been together for nearly 8 years, married for almost 5 and we’ve leaved together for the bulk of our relationship. Prior to marriage I would have argued passionately that my husband is a complete and total clean freak who loves things in exactly the perfect order. Not a bad thing, right? He thinks it's important for the house to be cleaned before anyone comes over. Not just picked up and tidy, but clean cleaned. But that's okay because I'm that way, too. Living together has always been an easy task and we get along the majority of the time when it comes to the household responsibilities. We both have chores we hate (him, laundry and me, cleaning the bathtub/shower). We have a pretty good routine and our home is usually in good shape.

Life after I do, after the honeymoon stage comes and goes really shows you things you’ve missed and overlooked during the stage of starry eyed love. There are moments when my neat freak husband drives me nuts. It's the little things he does that I can't help but want to choke him for doing. Need examples? I thought you'd never ask.

  • As soon as he gets home, he comes into the living room and strips down to his under-roos and white t-shirt. And the clothes he lost are now laying on the living room floor.
  • Each morning, he makes himself tea in the Keurig. He pulls the machine away from the wall so he has more room to work with. When he is done, the Keurig is still at the edge of the counter and the empty tea K-cup is left in the machine.
  • He turns lights on all over the house and keeps them on, even when there is not a soul in those rooms. It's like he is lighting the house for the cat or something.
  • He purposely messes with the pillows are the couch, the ones meant for d├ęcor not for lounging and places them back his way, which isn’t my way, which is wrong. Right?
  • I love when he does the dishes for me (we don’t have a dishwasher in the house) but it drives me batty when he leaves water on the counter or the sink wet. Dry both out then you’re finished.
I am sure I've missed something in my list but let me tell you, it's the little things like this that make me what to strangle my husband. My husband who is kind and supportive. The same man who is my rock and does everything for me, without question or fail. The one who rocks long hard hours to allow me to stay home with our 3-year-old. I mean, it’ these things that you start to look past once you’ve said I do and you start making a life with someone.

I know these are small things. Things that can be overlooked but sometimes, I wonder what would happen if I just overlooked the pile of clothes or the expensive electric bill (because I can’t be cold. I hate being cold so up goes the heat!) or the cluttered counter top. No one would care and my life would be totally okay. But there are times when I think to myself "if you do this one more time" or "you have got to be kidding me". Times when I think he can't be the same man I started dating so long ago. The one that was a neat freak and never made messes. I guess if this is my only battle, I'm pretty lucky, right?

Because after the I do’s real life happens and things are often messy, trails and heartache happen, happiness is something you enjoy together. Messes happen because you are busy living in the moment, enjoying life. Busy loving each other in spite of our flaws or habits, both good and bad. I couldn’t imagine doing life or raising our son with anyone else. So Coxy, I’ll see your messes and raise you a trip to Target. 

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