Wednesday, April 22, 2015

Dear Internet Trolls :: My Letter to You

When I started blogging, my only goal was to document life as we started our adventures into parenthood. Three years later and so much as change. I still document our life but Wife Mommy Me has grown so my posts have expanded to include a variety of topics. I still share the in and outs of life with James and Connor but I also include sponsored post and product reviews. Such posts have earned me a small income and that's been a fun perk of sharing our world with ya'll on a daily basis. I took the leap and expanded my network and now have folks that think enough of my dot com to sponsor me. I'm truly flattered that my readership has grown and is so faithful and rewarding.

With all the good that comes with blogging, there is an awfully lot of ugly too. I am floored by the trash that is found on sites, bashing bloggers, judging them, name calling and oh gosh, this gets me like no other, bringing their children and husbands into the mix. Yes I get that we put it out there so it's open for interpretation but at no time is ever okay to be downright ugly and hateful. Ever. Lucky for me, I haven't had things said about me, my family or our blog but there is enough ugly out there that I still think it's something any blogger can relate to. These people that write and share such negative remarks are nicknamed Internet trolls. For those of you who don't know what an Internet troll is, here is the definition: is a person who sows discord on the Internet by starting arguments or upsetting people, by posting inflammatory, extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community (such as a newsgroup, forum, chat room, or blog) with the deliberate intent of provoking readers into an emotional response or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion. And with that, you have the topic of today's post.

As a blogger, I may open myself up for criticism but I am still human. As are my child and husband. Like you, we have feelings and a heart and both can be bruised and broken by ugly comments. We are more than aware of our flaws and areas of our lives in which we need to improve. I don't need you to pick apart the pieces that I allow you to see. You only get a glimpse of our lives; not the whole picture. 

If I share a photo of a freshly manicured hand, holding a Starbucks cup while shopping at Target it would be ignorant of you to assume that I'm basic, uppity or even shallow. On the contrary, I'm a stay at home mom who gets pampered every six months that needs caffeine because my kid hasn't slept in weeks and Target brand diapers are the only diapers that don't break my son's butt out.

I put a face to the words on my screen with every post, photo and tweet I publish. I don't hide behind anything. You on the other hand have a ridiculous screen name and no photo uploaded on your profile. Who is hiding what, bro? It takes more guts then you know to be able share so much with the public, to know that with each sentence I write and post, I'm leaving an impression with everyone who comes across my page.

If you don't like or agree with what I think or say, then do yourself the favor and hit the red ex in the right hand corner. I am not doing this for YOU. I blog for me, my family and friends and the tight community I've built. If something I share upsets you, that is no my intention but that doesn't give you the right to belittle or name call. Again, we are all humans; show some kindness

In the big scheme of things, this is a blog. I can stop writing as easily as I started. There are bigger issues in the world than if you think my son needs to eat more organic or if I have too many sponsored posts. The blogger who you called fat and poked fun of in a less than flattering photo has to explain to her child why adults (!!!) are mean and gossip because she walked in on her Mommy crying. The blog that is now set to private is so because the writer wasn't able to handle being picked apart, having her marriage judged and torn to pieces. 

It takes a lot of courage to put yourself out there theses days. In real life, on social media and in the blogging community. You never know what may be picked apart and talked about on some lame forum. But by sharing your life with your faithful fans, by overlooking the pettiness of those that lurk behind a computer, you are proof that nothing everything online is evil or tainted. You are showing the Internet trolls of the world that they words mean nothing, that they have no control over your happiness. From one blogger to another: forget the ugly and spread the beauty. 

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