Tuesday, March 17, 2015

A Working Romance

Fact Number 1: I married my coworker.
Fact Number 2: I'm not the only one who has found love in the workplace.


I meet husband in December 2007 when we both worked for the same IT training company. At the time, he was married and I was engaged. Within months of meeting, we both had ended our relationships. And before you start thinking our love is based on scandal, let me set the record straight.

James was married for a little over 7 years before his marriage ended thanks to infidelity, on her behalf not his or ours. When I meet James at the end of 2007, their marriage had already crumbled and they were living separately and divorce proceedings where under way. I was engaged to a guy that I had been dating for 2.5 years. He popped the question in November 2007 and shortly thereafter, I started seeing warning signs indicating that I wasn't picking the right person for my happily ever after. One fight lead to another and in early 2008, we went our separate ways. 

In February of 2008, James invited me to see a live music performance in our hometown. It just so happen to be on Valentine's Day. In one single evening, I knew that he was a catch. But was he mine? For the first time in my life, I was single, living on my own and supporting myself 100%. I was liking my freedom and sense of "I am woman, hear me roar". Over the next 2 months, James and I would go to lunch together, meet up on the weekends and he soon became the 4th member of my group of single friends: Tracy, Kristin, James and I. We spent our weekends being young and foolish and making more poor decisions than we are comfortable admitting.

In April of that year, I could tell that things between James and I was more than just coworkers and friends. There was something there. James challenged me in ways I'd never been challenged before. He listened and cared to hear what I was saying and thought. He engaged me in his life and wanted to be a part of my world. He liked me for who I was and not as someone he wanted me to be. He treated me like a woman and was nothing but a total gentleman. 

April 19, 2008 James asked me to be his girlfriend. Yes... he asked... I'm old-fashioned in the strangest of ways. We dated and lived separately until that Fall. Once James's divorce was final, we decided to take our relationship to the next level and I moved in with him in September. At this point, I decided to find a new job as well. The idea of working and living with him wasn't something that fit well into our situation. The job change was tough at first but within a year, I had meet my best friend so it was really a blessing in disguise.

We soon discovered a whole new level of respect, love and dedication in our relationship. Something that we had never experienced before. I can't image my life without James. The love he has for Connor and I is something that I will forever be amazed by. He is my Mister and I'm blessed to be able to say "I'm Yours" to him day after day.

13 comments:

  1. I always find it interesting how people meet their spouses! My mom met my dad at work when he was going through a divorce too! While i didn't meet my husband at work, I had dated a few guys there (worked at an accounting firm wit a lot of guys when we were fresh out of college). A lot of my friends there did end up marrying coworkers. I joke that it was just an extension of college with the amount of young people dating each other. Shockingly everyone kept it very professional!

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  2. I know a lot of people that have met their mate at work. I agree with you changing jobs!! Seeing someone Everywhere would become too much. You know the saying distance makes the heart grow fonder :)

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  3. I met my husband at work as well! And he thought I was a complete idiot to begin with, good Job first impressions change x

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  4. I dated/hooked up with a couple former coworkers back in my younger years. My old company was like a freaking frat party with the number of office hookups that happened but with me at least it always ended badly and I ended up quitting a job after I got sick of all the drama. I don't think Kristian and I would do well working together :)

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  5. Such a cute story! My fiance and I (sort of) worked together in college - we worked for the same convenience store!

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  6. This is very, very eerily similar to how my fiance and I met. Love how honest you were in this post. I tend to gloss over the details of how we met, because the scandal of him being married (I had recently ended an engagement). Similarly their relationship was on the rocks, but it's still a taboo topic. We were the worst kept work romance for a little over a year, until I was 5 months pregnant and had to explain things to HR. Thankfully the company I worked for was ok with it, but that's probably not ideal in most situations.

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  7. What a great story. My fiance and I didn't meet in the workplace but we now work for the same company! I work in the office and he works in the field, I don't know how it would be if I were to work right along with him everyday!

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  8. The man I dated before my husband and I met at work. I fell madly in love with him from the second I saw him. I can remember sneaking off and stealing kisses from one another. I think the excitement of almost getting caught was a lot of fun too. We were young, under 21! We dated for almost 7 years and I still care for him. It just wasn't going to work for us but we still care for one another.

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  9. Aw that is so cute!! What a great story! :) I've never dated someone I've worked with but mostly because there aren't too many male elementary school teachers!

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  10. Though Scott and I didn't work together, per se, we met *because* of work. We worked for the same city - he was a public servant (what can I say, the police uniform was hot), and I was with Parks and Rec. Our city had a softball team and if it wasn't for that City, or that softball team, I'd probably still be a hot mess. I'm kidding. Sort of.
    Love your story and your honesty!!

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  11. What a great story! I love hearing how people met. I met my hubby in an unusual way too! Sounds like you made the right choice with your hubby!

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