Friday, February 6, 2015

Meet Courtney :: Shiraz In My Sippy Cup

Hi there! I'm Courtney and I write over at Shiraz In My Sippy Cup where I discuss all things parenting, working mom challenges and the occasional random thought or two...maybe three. I'm just a small town girl with big city dreams living life as a kick-ass Marketing Manager by day and a Wonder Woman mom by night to a beautiful and tenacious three year old (Yes, I'm fully aware that sounds like a Journey song but it works - I'm a huge Journey fan!) My baby daddy, Michael, is my best friend and partner in crime. He also loves to tell the story to people that I got him drunk at a work event and asked him to kiss me first while we were dating. Lies. All lies. I love Tennessee football, a great glass (or two!) of Shiraz wine, pearls, naps and am a proud Kappa Delta alum. I'm tackling life with a lot of laughs, sarcasm and baby wipes and am honored that Stephanie is sharing me with you all today. Thanks, Stephanie!


When I think back to the holidays growing up, very few memories actually center around gifts. Sure, I remember getting some pretty cool things along the way like my Commodore 64 computer {I’m really showing my age here…} and a Nintendo play station but honestly what I remember most about the holidays and my life as a child and teen revolve more around the memories of traditions, family and faith. Now that I’m an adult, I can look back and see that those “gifts” are the ones that really stuck with me and helped to shape the adult I am today. To me, those “gifts” of traditions, family and faith are invaluable. 

Now that I have a child of my own, I’ve started thinking about these things in how I raise our daughter and the impact it will make on her life. Which got me thinking – what “gifts” can I give to Chickie that she will never forget? What “gifts” can I give her that will impact her life forever and help to guide and shape her into a responsible, kind, strong and courageous girl and woman?

To that end, I’ve come up with a list of 10 “gifts” that are most important to me that I plan on giving my daughter for the New Year and moving forward in her rearing.
  1. Contentment. The desire and urge for more and more is strong and such a slippery slope. One of the best gifts we can give our children is the appreciation of being content with what they have.
  2. Challenge. It’s so important to me that Chickie knows it’s OK to dream big and set high goals for herself. I want her to know that anything is possible if she’s willing to work for it and work hard to overcome obstacles that may arise.
  3. Affirmation. Sometimes one word can make a huge difference in the life of a person, especially a child. One of the best gifts we can give our children are positive affirmations of their place in our families and world. Tell them how much you appreciate them and keep telling them.
  4. Determination. One of the biggest determining factors in a child’s success is the size of their will. How will I help to shape my child’s determination in the things she learns and does, especially the challenging aspects of life?
  5. Imagination. The world is changing at the speed of light every day and the ones who are thriving in our ever-changing world have vast and incredible imaginations. I always want Chickie’s spark of imagination to light her path.
  6. Optimism. Pessimists do nothing but drain the life out of life. They do not change the world. Optimists do.
  7. Unconditional Acceptance and Support. We can raise our children with the ideals we think are important but as they grow into adults and begin to have minds of their own, they make their own choices on how to live their lives. I want Chickie to know that I may not always agree with her choices but I will always, always, always support her and love her unconditionally.
  8. A Sense of Humor. Life can be hard. Knowing how to laugh, especially at yourself, is important.
  9. Affection. While we were at the park yesterday, I watched a young boy who looked to be around 8 years old try to get hugs and kisses from his father. The father was not much into being affectionate and at one point said, “You’re too old for hugs and kisses. Now go play!” Hearing those words nearly broke my heart. As humans, one of our greatest needs is affection from those we love. The human touch is a powerful and healing tool. I never want Maddy to think she’s too old to receive physical affirmations of love from me.
  10. Room to Grow and Make Mistakes. Kids are kids. They are messy. They are unorganized. They can even be nasty little devils. IT’S OK. Give them permission to be little, to explore, experiment and make mistakes. 
None of these gifts are any that can be bought, but really, that’s the point. What “gifts” would you like to give your child to help them with their journey?

12 comments:

  1. Love Courtney! Love her blog! These are all great! I think the last one is my favorite. We all make mistakes and we all need a little grace from time-to-time. =)

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    1. Thanks, Miranda! I appreciate you reading. Have a great weekend!

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  2. LOVE Courtney! Her posts are always inspiriting and thought provoking. Today is no different.
    #8 brought a tear to my eye. Going to give extra hugs and kisses to my little man today.

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    1. You are too kind, friend. Smother that little love with all the kisses you have!!

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  3. Hi Courtney, I have been following your posts and blog. I've enjoyed your input. Even though not a mother myself, I still enjoy reading!

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    1. Thanks so much, Christine! I appreciate you reading. Have a wonderful weekend!

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  4. I love Courtney's blog! #10 is my favorite. I think we're so quick to expect kids to have it all together and forget that they have immature emotions and limited self-control. Great post!

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    1. Thanks, Kelsea! So true. In my moments of feeling frustrated, I often have to stop and remember that my child is only 3. She's learning. God knows I make tons of mistakes all the time and our kids are no different. Have a great weekend and O.M.GEEEE Abe is adorable. Snuggle City!!

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  5. This is a fabulous list! Glad to read it again, Courtney!

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  6. What a great list. Oh Courtney and her words of wisdom. Someday that girl is gonna write a book.

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    1. Oh, thank you so much Beth. Your comment literally made my day. I appreciate your friendship and thanks for reading. Have a great weekend!

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