Wednesday, October 29, 2014

I Must Confess - Part 4


With nearly 2 whole whopping years of motherhood under my belt, I felt like this would be a perfect opportunity for a little confession, maybe provide you with a bit of advice for my fellow Mommas or those thinking of starting a family. Here goes nothing... 

{ONE}
I have never not loved Connor nor have I ever not known how lucky we are to be parents but there have been times when I didn't like him. At all. I would all but cry because nap time brought me a sense of freedom I was sometimes dying for. Having a kid who was sick a lot his first year really tested my patience. Which I don't really have a lot of. But this never ending test created a bond between Connor and I never dreamed of. One that will truly last until I'm no longer here to be his Momma.

{TWO}
Just because you are a Mom doesn't make you an effin' expert. I'm not an expert, either. I just know a whole Hell of a lot when it comes to my child. But everyone (for the most part) is doing their very best to be the best Mom they can be. And if that means formula fed, Pamper wearing, daycare attending, then you rock that lifestyle Momma. Take care of your little one(s), your family and make the most of your situation. At the end of the day, as long as your child is nice to mine at the play ground, I don't give a rat's ass on how you parent. AT ALL. 

{THREE}
No matter how close your family is or how many girlfriends you have for support, you will never ever need any of them as much as you will need your husband/partner/child's father when you begin your parenthood journey. The people James and I are now is far from who we were when we first meet. Yes, that's normal ... people evolve and grow ... but NOTHING changes you like parenthood. And it will be so much easier to conquer life as a parent if the child's father is a strong source of encouragement and support. James, I thank you for being our family's strength. You have made my role as Mommy so much easier because of who you are. 

{FOUR}
Dear females of the world: STOP BEING JUDGMENTAL ASSHOLES. Wow, that felt good. As a woman, I want to surround myself with ladies that want to have a life full of love, happiness and positivity. Yes, as hippie as that may sound, that's what I want. I don't have the time, effort or desire to judge your life. At all. What you do is between you and the Big Guy upstairs. While I may not get your choices or even really like who you are a person, I will still respect you. Bottom line, I'll do me, you do you. 

{FIVE}
When you first become a parent days seem so long. You think you have all the time in the world to enjoy your littlest love. I'm here to pop that bubble and tell you that the while the days seem long, the years are short. I sit before you a Mom to a two year old, a Mom who never imagined 2 years would fly by so fast. Enjoy every single minute of the madness. Love the chaos with all you have. Take as many photos as you can and if social media is your thing, share those toothy grins and silly faces with the world. Because really, I would much rather see your sweet baby's face than what someone had for dinner. Love every minute while it's here to enjoy, even the ones that seem to last far longer than 60 seconds. Before you know it, your two year old is telling you to go to time out and you can't help but think hey, at least he's listening.

On the eve of our son's 2nd birthday, I know that being a parent is what I was meant to do, no matter what I thought as a young 20 something. Being Connor's Momma has provided me with meaning that I never knew I was missing in my life. 2 years later and I'm still head over heels in love with a little boy who made me more of a person than any of the 30 years before did.

 

32 comments:

  1. I love it when you are super honest and blunt Stephanie. If more people had this straight forward attitude to parenting things would be much more pleasant.

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    1. I sometimes worry I'm too much but I'm glad you liked it, Beth.

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  2. Sounds like you have this parent thing down - at least when it comes to knowing what is best for you and your child! :)

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    1. I mean, I have my child under control... most times. But it's a daily challenge and it's been a fun one over the last 2 years.

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  3. "Before you know it, your two year old is telling you to go to time out..." YES! :)

    And also yes to stopping all the judging of other women and other parents. Even if your kid is a jerk to mine at the playground, I'm sure mine has been a jerk to someone at the playground when I wasn't looking - it doesn't mean I can now judge your overall parenting!

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    1. I laughed so hard and then sat in time out because he insisted I do so!

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  4. I LOVE THIS!! My "baby" turned 10 last week and my oldest is 14!! Is absolutely flies. <3

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    1. It's crazy how time goes by so fast, isn't it? I can't imagine Connor being a 10 year old.

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  5. "You do yours, I'll do mine"... LOVE it! You are a great mom! Happy (almost) birthday to little C! One thing I would add is constantly being compared to my sisters-in-law. My mom and MIL love to do that all the time. I don't think they realize they do it (or how often) but it kills me because we are all so different. I'm not a fan of judgmental moms at all. Like you said, we are all trying the best we can, and our children will recognize that and respect us for it.

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    1. Lucky for me, there isn't anyone to compare me to but I'm sure that would be the worst thing ever. You are a great Mommy to Hampton and you will continue to be one to your new little bundle of joy.

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  6. I wish moms would stop being so judgemental! I'm glad you included that. I see it everywhere, and I worry that their children are learning the same things.

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    1. Exactly!! I try to keep myself in check so that Connor doesn't pick up on it. It's so important to be a good example for the next generation.

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  7. Yes, the days are long and the years are short. I can't believe one of my babies is 14!?!

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    1. I can't imagine Connor being 14 but before I know it, he will be!

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  8. Yep the time goes way too fast. It's not fair :( Your little dude is awesome.

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    1. He is, isn't it? And you have a pretty great kid too in Hunter.

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  9. #1 & #4 are my jam. YES. Happy Birthday, Connor!! XOXO

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    1. My jam.. I need to say that more often. You Courtney, you are my jam!

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  10. Yes. Yes. Yes. Yes. and Yes. I agree with each of these!
    Happy Birthday Eve Connor!

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    1. I'm glad you don't think I'm bat shit crazy with these confessions.

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  11. You're a fabulous Mama! I love all these especially number 3 & 5. I'm glad you're blogging more again! :)) #bltribedare

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    1. Thanks Amanda! You too! Good luck with the new job.

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  12. I freaking love you for this. Spot on with all of it. However, these two lines::
    Just because you are a Mom doesn't make you an elfin' expert.
    Dear females of the world: STOP BEING JUDGMENTAL ASSHOLES.

    Yep, nailed it.

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    1. I mean, seriously. I just can't. I'm trying to raise a good kid, you know? I can't handle the nonsense.

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  13. Love that this is so real and honest and I totally appreciate this as a fellow mom of boys. And happy birthday eve:)

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    1. Thanks! I just know that I need to be real with myself when it comes to this crazy world of parenting or I'm going to get lost in the madness.

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  14. I love this post so so much!!! I was laughing so hard at #2 and #4!! I love how you tell it like it is..love reading you as always! :)

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    1. Thanks Faith. I come on a little strong sometimes but really, I want people to know where I'm coming from when I share our world on this blog.

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  15. Love this. #2 and #4. Mom of three. Enough said. Thank you for sharing!

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    1. As a of Mom of 3, I think you may be an expert. I mean... that takes a lot of talent.

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  16. Great post! Thanks for a good read :)

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