Thursday, August 28, 2014

This Isn't a Job

Earlier this week, Connor and I went to the grocery and on the way out, were stopped by a gentleman selling newspaper subscriptions. After listening to his sales pitch and signing up for the newspaper (yeah, I'm that person), he posed the question "Isn't being a parent the best job?" Rather than share all my opinions, I smiled, told him to have a good day and headed out of the store. 

But ever since hearing those words, I have been thinking about that question all week: isn't being a parent the best job? Here's the thing, I don't think this is a job. At all. 

A job is something that you get a paid to do. In most instances a job provides you with insurance. A job gives you holidays and weekend off. You get paid vacations. Hell, you even get sick days. When you have a job, you get at minimum 30 minutes a day to eat your lunch in peace. And lastly, a job is something that you quit. Some where you can replaced.

None of those apply to being a parent. None..

Being a parent is a blessing. It's an adventure. It's a calling. Sure it takes work, just like your job, but what doesn't take work, nowadays?

Every day is something new. Every day, I get a new chance at being the best mother I can be. James gets precious evening and weekend hours to make memories with his son. We are molding our son into the person he will grow up to be. If Connor grows up to be self-centered and egotistical, then there is no one to point a finger at other than James and I. But that's not who we are raising.

Daily, we teach Connor manners. Morning and afternoon, we read from his Bible, teaching him God's word. We instill in him that he needs to be kind and share. That he needs to respect others and listen to grown-ups. We use kind words to each other and to friends and family because little ears are always listening.

Don't get me wrong, we have our far shares of bad days. But that's just part of life, regardless of how you spend your days. Single, married, childless or parenting to 5, there are always hard days. 

Parenting isn't a job. I don't have a job. What I wouldn't do to hear the question "Parenting is such a privilege, isn't it?" 

At the end of the day, I get to crawl into bed, knowing I've made a difference in our son's world. I get to smile knowing that just a few rooms away is a little person that thinks the world of his Momma and Daddy.

And I'd take that over a week's paid vacation any day. 

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    1. Thank you. This was a very from the heart post for me.

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    1. Thanks! I'm glad their are other mommas that agree.

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  3. I totally agree. Children are gifts from God and we shouldn't look at raising them as a task, a chore, or a job. Although, sometimes it can be difficult. :-)

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    1. Oh yea, it's tough some days but you are right, parenting and children are gifts.

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  4. definitely a great point to make :) I don't have kids, but it sounds like you're a great mom!

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  5. What a sweet reminder that parenthood is something to be celebrated! I can so easily get focused on the problems of motherhood that I totally miss the the blessing that it is! Thanks so much for the reminder!

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    1. No problem Carrie. Don't get me wrong, I have days that are doozy and make me a bear to deal with but overall, I'm so lucky and blessed to be a Mom.

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  6. I suppose people equate it to a job because it requires a lot of "hard work" to raise a little person. But yes, I like your terminology much better :)

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    1. It is hard work but isn't anything that requires passion?

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  7. This is a great way to looking at parenting as a privilege....that's awesome

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    1. Thanks Paris. It's moments of clarity like what I shared in this post that make the worst of days manageable.

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  8. I've never thought of it like this, because some days it's hard, like a job. Shoot, most days it's *harder* than any job I've ever worked. But, I'm really digging your verbage choice on this one. Good call momma.

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    1. Thanks Cali. ;) I know you get where I'm coming from.

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  9. This was such a sweet and inspiring post! I get what you're saying. It makes me even more excited to be a parent one day myself :)

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    1. Parenthood is amazing. Everyone should do it.... at least once.

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  10. Very true, so many different words for people to use apart from job... parenting is a ... joy, privilege, wonder, adventure :)

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    1. Perfect adjectives to describe it, Fiona!

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  11. This is definitely another way to look at it, and you are right. Sometimes, I wish it paid (in money) to be a SAHM though haha

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    1. Oh girl, I would take a paycheck any day... oh what I would do with a little extra cash.

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  12. I agree so much and I'm not even a parent. I work with kids and I can't even imagine. I was watching a show once and Oprah talked about how in her opinion the hardest job was being a mom and she didn't know if she could ever do it.

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    1. And Oprah is a mastermind. That says a lot!

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  13. I totally agree with you Stephanie. I really love the way you put it. It is a privilege, a very wonderful and amazing privilege. :)

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  14. This is such a great way to think of parenthood and I appreciate you sharing this perspective. I never really thought of it as a job, but didn't really think of it as not a job either. While I'm not a parent yet, I can definitely see how this can influence my abilities to be the best aren't I can be one day!

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    1. It's tough to not think of it as a job but the bottom line is, I can't quit. I have to parent C and raise him to be a wonderful, respectful person.

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  15. I hate people calling it a job or parents saying they have to babysit their own kids!! It's not babysitting its called parenting. Gah!!

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    1. I correct folks who say babysit. It's like nails on a chalkboard to me.

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