Tuesday, August 26, 2014

The Day Cursing Taught Me a Lesson

I'm not a perfect person. Nor am I a perfect Mom. But what I am, is someone that knows when a lesson is being taught, when I need to listen up and pay attention.

Yesterday, Connor and I went to the grocery store (BARF!!, that's a chore!). While transitioning him from his car seat to the grocery cart (which wasn't the one he wanted. He wanted the "red car, Momma pease" - strike 1), his water bottle began to pour everywhere (strike 2). I see this as a sign as to how this trip is going to go, I say to myself "son of a bitch". Without missing a beat, Connor replies with "uh oh cuss word".

What the what? Did I just get chastised by my 21 month old son?

Yup, sure did. 

At that very REAL PARENTING moment, I realized that my little baby was no longer a baby. He truly is a fully functioning (almost) 2 year old. He listens, he understands, he talks, he registers and he knows. Oh boy does he know. 

Connor taught me a lesson yesterday. If I don't want him to say it, I shouldn't say it. Not in his presence anyway. And let's be honest, I can say certain words 2 rooms away and somehow his impeccable hearing picks it up and runs in, repeating what I just said. So I guess this goodbye to my sailor mouth and hello to Momma lingo.

If there is one thing that I continually learn with each passing day, it's that parenting is all about the lessons. Sometimes your the teacher and sometimes your the student.

In case you wondering if there was a strike 3 yesterday, of course there was. It took longer than I anticipated at the store yesterday and in the process, Connor drained his cup of water causing his diaper to fill and leak without me realizing.

You can go ahead and say it.. yeah, I'm totally Mom of the Year...

  

42 comments:

  1. Oh man! He's so perceptive! Bright side? At least he didn't just repeat your bad word! Ever since we taught Callie to cover her mouth for cough and sneezing she reprimands us!

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  2. haha, at least he didn't repeat it ^ I'm such a swear word user, and it was hard to curb that when Aria was little/not talking. I dropped paint on the floor the other day and said 'shit' so that's what she repeated sort of...more like shh. oops. Definitely a two way street though! Aria is always teaching mom something or other.

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  3. I hate it when my kids spank my butt! hahaha. This is a good lesson for all of us sot remember.

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  4. Love the honesty in this post. I have totally had those S.O.B. moments to then realized what I did and paused like a deer in the headlights worried I maybe got caught. It is such a humbling but good experience when we learn from our children.

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    1. Connor hears everything I swear so we are watching everything we say. It's been tough!

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  5. I hope you have better luck than I do. I never had an issue with my mouth until AFTER I had Henry, haha.

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    1. My mouth has been dirty for year. I get it straight from Dad. It's not lady like at all.

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  6. I learned this lesson while in the Target cash register line. Something happened (they wouldn't use my coupons - GASP!), and I immediately mumbled, "Damnit!" It was all of .002 seconds later and Marcus chirped up saying, "Damnit!" The clerk heard it, the people behind me heard it, I was mortified. The creativity with word usage around here has gotten semi-comical these days.

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    1. Thank gosh he didn't repeat it. Especially in front of someone else.

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  7. I have to laugh about this. It's so true. Once we had Henry repeating a very not good F word because of a situation like this... sure taught us a lesson, too.

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  8. Oh man! I'm actually super impressed that he knew that what you said was a bad word. Mason doesn't talk much yet but I'm sure soon we will have to be watching our mouths too!

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    1. No, he is so on it. He listens to everything and he has heard me tell James or someone else not to say a bad word.

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  9. At least he didn't repeat the cuss word. I'm scared that one day my daughter will repeat it. I can't help but blurt it out especially when I dropped something or stuff like that.

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    1. Totally normal. I said "oh stink" instead of "oh shit" and now he says "oh stink". Cracks me up.

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  10. Watch your mouth, mama! ;) He was on top of that! lol. I'm still bad about doing this, too. Some days, you're just so tired and/or stressed that "bad words" just comes out at the wrong time. My little one and I have a long commute several times a week and the traffic usually causes me to say things like that. I wish there was a separate road for good drivers, sometimes~How relaxing it'd be :)

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    1. You are right, some days, you just need to let the words go, no matter how foul they are!

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  11. We've had to cut back on the cussing as well since Hunter is like a little parrot with repeating things. The worst part is that he will shout out body parts like "nipples" and "penis" when we're out in public, I can't really scold him because those aren't technically bad words so I just try to tell him that we don't say those words out in public. It can get pretty embarassing.

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    1. Connor doesn't know those parts yet but does try to show our bellies to people. Now that's fun!

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  12. Ugh! That sounds like a pretty miserable grocery trip! He sounds like a pretty sharp kid ;) Don't beat yourself up too much, I know that's something I'm really going to struggle with!

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    1. I haven't been back to the store with him since. I flat out, it's not happening, ever, refuse.

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  13. Oh no! It's so incredible how much those little ears pick up.

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  14. It's amazing how much kids repeat! S does this all the time.

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  15. What's a fail about that? Every parent is always learning and you can guarantee that some things go right and some go wrong. At least your child didn't pretend (right in front of the Customs official) that you had an illegal immigrant in the back of the care whilst waiting for the ferry. How we didn't get strip searched I'll never know!

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    1. I guess I would rather him call out someone else then me.

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  16. It's amazing it's amazing how smart little kids are! I worked with a group of two year olds and they just blew my mind with how intelligent they are.

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    1. They are amazing little people with such a big appetite for learning and expressing themselves.

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  17. Good thing you didn't have to deal with him repeating the word! Kids are so perceptive! My mom used to use the "F" word all the time when I was a toddler. That is until I repeated it one day and then had my mouth washed out with soap. She didn't say it around me anymore after that, haha!

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    1. I get my mouth from my Dad. We can throw the words around like it's our job.

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  18. Wow, your son is so clued in! He's only three months older than my little one but my little one isn't talking yet. I've been trying to hold my tongue with the curses too and have been scolding my other half when he does it in front of TL, I don't want him picking these things up either!

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    1. He is! It's both amazing and terrifying at the same time.

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  19. It's interesting how much they soak up even at such a young age. They're like sponges! At least you're realizing it now, before he comes to school and starts repeating EVERYTHING from home!

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    1. Oh man, I would be embarrassed if I had to have a talk with his teacher because of it.

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  20. Yup, the little ones really do know what's going on!

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    1. Can't fool C. He is a parrot and knows what's going on. At alllll times!

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  21. This will be hard for me...need to clean up my language. he only god thing is, I curse in German and even if my daughter repeats it, nobody will understand :)

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    1. Smart. I need to pick up a second language just for the curse words.

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