Wednesday, March 12, 2014

Before & After

Recently, a couple friends and I were talking about how much life has changed since being mothers. Obviously taking care of a little one 24/7 has changed the look of things in my everyday life. What you don't see or notice is that as someone who worked outside of the house full time making the switch to being a stay at home Mom wasn't exactly the easiest of transitions.

Before Connor:
Monday thru Friday, I worked my 40 hour (plus some) job. I commuted 20 minutes to and from work, stayed late when needed and was able to take an hour lunch break daily. I spent my days talking tech with students and coworkers and dressed in my signature black pants, black boots and gray or black top. Hair and makeup were always done.

After Connor:
Monday thru Sunday, I work around from about 7:30AM to 10PM. My commute consists of going down the hall to pick up my 16 month old boss and then downstairs to start the day. Luckily, I don't have to worry about clocking in or out as that wasn't always something I remembered to do. Lunch is consumed in between chores like laundry or dishes while the little one is enjoying his lunch while watching Signing Time with Rachel. My wardrobe consists of black yoga pants, a comfy 3/4 sleeve top covering a tank top. I'm still rocking my bedhead most days and makeup? That's strictly used for date nights, MNI/MNO or weekends.

Before Connor:
I ran errands, shopped, got my hair/nails done, visited friends, went to a movie, had a nice dinner out and worked out when I wanted to without focusing on anyone else's schedule. I never had nor needed "me time"

After Connor:
I run errands in the morning if we don't have a playdate. If we do, then errands are pushed to later on in the day, after nap time. Shopping is only done while Mister is with us as Connor hates shopping and would rather push me over the edge than sit in the shopping cart for longer than 15 minutes. My hair cut is scheduled for a Saturday morning, first appointment and only every 4-5 months. Visiting friends is scheduled well in advice if the little one isn't going with me. Usually it's when Daddy is in town and can spend the evening with him so I get "me time". Dinners out are only if we are feeling brave and Connor is in a good mood. Working out is scheduled a monthly basis, around playdates, naptimes and visits with Connor's friends. "Me time" is like the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. 

Before Connor:
I never doubted my role or abilities in my career. I was a stellar employee and my students loved me. My life was simple, orderly and planned. I felt close to my husband and that our marriage was first and foremost.

After Connor:
I question myself daily on if I've done enough to help Connor grow socially, physically and mentally. I struggle to get everything done that I've chose to aim for on any single day. To do lists are written daily but usually tossed in the garbage by 10AM. Life is planned and enjoyed day by day with hiccups along the way that make life real. My marriage is stronger than ever and we depend and support each other more than ever before. 

Before Connor, things were easy. Life went as planned and things didn't get so crazy just because someone didn't get a good enough nap. Life after Connor has been the best 16 months of our lives. We know the meaning of true, unconditional love and for the first time in a long time, we have learned to enjoy the everyday here and there. CJ has taught us that sometimes, you just need to sit back and enjoy the view.


 

16 comments:

  1. It's amazing how much you change when you have kids. But I wouldn't change it for the world. Despite all the craziness, stress, and hard work of being a mommy, it is more rewarding than anything else I have ever done. Great post!

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  2. It is so hard for me to remember life before kids.. but life before becoming a WAHM... so different. I used to dress up and look 'pretty'.. now I bun it, pj bottom it and grab a tshirt. I suppose that is the 'dress code' for my business.. lots of bending, moving and stretching...

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  3. Since I still work that aspect of my life is still pretty similar except that now I am definitely less likely to go out after work for drinks and sometimes I have to leave/stay home with a sick kid. I definitely prefer my life post-kid though.

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  4. My life before kids was pretty much my teenage years, lol. I was 19 when I got pregnant, so I didn't even have a "real" full-time job yet!

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  5. I have to say, life really does a 180 when you have kids and a lot of these things ring true for us as well. Now that Henry is getting a little older, things are getting a little easier. I take him with me everywhere and he's typically pretty good. He even works out with me - which can be both a pain or a bonus depending on the day!

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  6. I can totally relate to this as a mother of 2 young girls!! Life totally does change after kids. A new normal. =-)

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  7. Priorities sure do change, don't they! Great post!

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  8. Aww Stephanie! You are an excellent mom and Connor is lucky to have you :) Plus he is adorable! Thank you for sharing this. I know life will be so different when the hubs and I decide to have little ones. I honestly can't wait to be a mom :)

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  9. "Me time" is like the pot of gold at the end of a rainbow. -- NAILED IT!

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  10. Great post! Can't wait to see how my life will change as a stay at home mom.

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  11. I struggle a lot with thinking about life before and after having my kids. I often miss the freedom and career, but in the end, wouldn't give up my mom role for it. Isn't it crazy how life changes?! And making sure that you have "me time" is SO important!

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  12. This is such a helpful post! I'm in the process of trying to decide whether or not I'm Mom Material... I know life will completely change with a child (eek!), but it's helpful to know what exactly "life will completely change" means! So glad to be in your SITS Spring Fling group! :)

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  13. This is so true. Its amazing to sit back and look at how much our lives have changed since kids. I wouldn't trade this busy schedule for the world :)

    Thanks for linking up at #theultimateparty today!

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  14. Before baby you can poop alone. After baby - You have an audience.

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