Tuesday, February 25, 2014

Less is More

Back in December, I joined two Facebook communities that helped promote my blog. Joining the groups paid off in multiple ways. I got tons of traffic and meet some really great fellow bloggers that I've been able to connected with. I've found some wonderful blogs and they've become daily posts I look forward to reading and getting to know.

Unfortunately, after 2 1/2 months of dedicating each morning to linking up and supporting others, I felt overwhelmed with being in the groups. I felt like I needed to take the time each day and read my fellow bloggers post and share my thoughts. As a fellow blogger, I needed to make time to support them. Here is where I got caught up. On any given day, I would spend 3-4 hours a day hooked to the computer, spend time in the blogging world and connected to Facebook. That's uncalled for. Why? Because as a stay at home Mom, I don't have an extra 3-4 hours a day to waste online. I have too many other (more) important things I should be doing. So if I was caught up with this support groups, I was neglecting other areas of our lives. No good. All this "work" started making me feel some sort of dread about blogging each day. And as a place to share and document our family's milestones and memories, that's the last thing I wanted to happen.

I decided to leave those groups this weekend. Don't get me wrong, both groups taught me loads about blogging and open some doors for me that I didn't even know I wanted open. For that I am grateful. I would recommend anyone joining them if you feel like you can dedicate time to the threads daily. Some of you reading this, I meet through those groups and I hope you stick around. I was getting caught up in numbers, likes and shares and I don't want that to be way I blog. I want to blog because I love sharing our story. I love showing our friends and family the in and outs of Connor J. I want to blog because it allows me to be more creative than I thought I would ever be as a stay at home Mom.

Learning that what I want for and from blogging has been a process. The bottom line is I want less of my days connected to the Internet and more time with this little guy. 




10 comments:

  1. I for one am happy I met you through one of those groups. I am sad to see you go, but I will be keeping up with you anyway. I guess I feel a connection since we both have boys around the same age. Good for you putting family first!

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  2. You are an amazing lady! This is something I am afraid will happen to me... a stay at home mom, trying to blog. Thank you for being honest, and putting what matters first... your family!

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  3. I've always wondered how SAHM have so much time for blogging. On the days I stay home with Hunter I rarely have time to read many blogs let alone write one. The only reason I'm able to read blogs or write on my own is because I get some downtime during the day at work. So I don't blame you at all for not wanting to take all that time during the day.

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  4. Awesome decision Stephanie! We're so glad that you were a part of our community and we're really appreciative to your help. I too am a stay at home mom and homeschool so I can totally understand what you mean. That's why more than often then most bloggers, I go away and take long breaks from blogging. It's what's needed to remember why you started blogging and refocus on your family. Thanks again for being a part of SGBC & we're still rocking with you!

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  5. I totally agree with Chene! I have loved meeting you and I look forward to keeping up with your blog :) P.S. your little one is seriously handsome! :)

    http://neatly-packaged.blogspot.com/

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  6. YAY for spring cleaning!
    I was all about 'the numbers' for awhile, and then blogging became work. No thanks. No time for all that.
    Every so often I'll go through my blog reading list and 'clean house.' Best feeling ever (next to taking 6 bags to Goodwill, of course).

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  7. I've struggled with those thoughts for awhile and it's part of why I haven't decided if I will grow my blog more or not. I don't want it to be work. I want to do it to enjoy it. And enjoy the connections I've made :)

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  8. Yes, the day the scales start to tip making blogging more work and less fun is the day you need to step back and reevaluate. I get that way at least once a month. I love to post, love to post, love to post, and then all of a sudden it feels like a chore..so I don't do it that day or for a few days. I for one am glad you saw something wasn't working and did what you needed to do!

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  9. Ahh, this is precisely why I haven't been blogging much lately! I felt like I needed a "detox." I left Twitter and suddenly I had spare time in the day! I took a major break from blogging, and I've been doing things that are more meaningful with that time. I still want to share our story for memories sake, so I just need to find a good balance...one where numbers/income/hits don't matter. It's not about that for me. I'm happy for you that you're finding a balance that works for you! :) You rock, mama!

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  10. I wondered how you got so many followers so fast!!! Blogging for me is a fun outlet and way to document the happenings of our lives. If it becomes more than that I am afraid it won't be fun. The numbers don't matter to me but I must admit connecting and making virtual friends (hello Bloggy BFF!!) has been such a surprisingly welcomed bonus to blogging!! Love that side of it! But you are right there is a point where it becomes too much.

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