Wednesday, January 15, 2014

Happiness

 
The first time I heard that was when I had just started working at NH in 2007. At the time, I thought that I had it all. I was dating (what I thought at the time was) THE guy, had the apartment of my dreams and had just landed the my first big girl job. Things couldn't get any better. I was in LOVE with my life.

Yet I still had this really deep want for more. Like no matter how awesome the guy, apartment and job, something was missing. I was still yearning for more. I couldn't be completely happy with all I had because there was this part of me that felt empty. I thought once I found that piece, I would find my happiness and truly be content with what I had in my life.

From the outside looking it, there was no reason to complain so I kept my unease to myself and tried to enjoy the world I'd been blessed with. I must be one really bad actress because my Aunt K pointed out to me that I didn't seem to excited about having everything I had every wished for. I was floored. I didn't want anyone to know that I was unhappy. I mean, hello?, it's me we are talking about here. I'm Mom's Sunshine, Daddy's girl and the boy's overprotective sister. I took care of everyone, made sure every one around me was happy. My aunt, my favorite, the one I'm closest to knew me enough to know something was wrong. 

Hours later, I had open my heart and bared my soul. Coming clean about how something was missing and how I wasn't truly happy with my life, my aunt spoke the best piece advice I've been given as an adult.

Happiness is not having what you want, but wanting what you have.

Within months, I was out of what was a toxic relationship and had left my perfect apartment. The freedom of having my own place and independence was so rewarding, so powerful. For the first time in years, I felt like I had the chance to be me. Finally after years of putting others first, I was happy with what I had. Making those changes weren't easy and I can't believe I was able to really stand up for what I wanted. But my happiness was worth it. After all, the choice to find happiness in what I have has led me to where I am today.   

23 comments:

  1. What a great post! I kind of feel the same way however things happened a little differently for me. Looking back, everything happens for a reason (even though it may not seem it at the time) and I love the place where I'm at, at the moment. Oh, life. haha

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    1. I've really learned to enjoy every day as much as possible. Some days are tough but I'm blessed to have them!

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  2. Great post! When I finally got out of my previous toxic relationship I remember feeling this huge weight lifting off my shoulders. Like it was finally okay to put myself first and be myself. Now I'm happily married and loving my life exactly how it is. :-)

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    1. Toxic relationships are just no fun. They suck the life out of you!

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  3. What an AWESOME post... I love this and love that quote. So very true!! You are the only person that fights for YOU so you are the only one that can make yourself happy...

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    1. There is nothing wrong with being your own cheerleader!

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  4. There is a lot going on in my world right now and this could not have been posted at a better time.
    Perfectly said. Thank you!

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  5. Glad I stopped by! I needed that today .. :) Visiting from the link-up!

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  6. Really great advice! I'm so glad that you are living a happy life, I wouldn't want to see it any other way!

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  7. This post is so inspirational! Thank you for sharing your journey. It is those tough times that leads us to happiness later on!

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    1. If you have to have a little sadness and a rough time to really enjoy the good you are blessed with later!

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  8. I pretty much echo Desiree's thoughts! thanks for sharing your story and your wise aunts advise!

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    1. I'm glad this touched a chord with you!

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  9. I had to learn the same lesson. Good for you for paying attention to your aunt's advice. Everyone doesn't have someone who cares enough about them to try to help them out of a funk.

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    1. She has been a blessing in so many ways!

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  10. This is so wonderful! You had this little Texan blogger rooting for you! :) Thank you for sharing!

    http://neatly-packaged.blogspot.com/

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  11. Visiting from the linkup. I love this piece of advice! It's so easy to get caught up in what comes next, or an illusion of what we think we want. I'm often chasing "more", and there's just no need if I can make myself slow down and enjoy what I have!

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    1. Writing this post really made me realize how much chasing I've been doing! Take time to enjoy and find happiness in what you have right now!

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  12. Beautiful! It's funny how even when we have everything we thought we wanted, we can still not be fulfilled! Such a great piece of advice! Thanks for joining the link up!

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