Friday, January 31, 2014

Food for Thought

Girls, I'm tired. Damn tired really. 

It's Thursday and I've been playing Mommy and Daddy since Sunday morning at 5AM. It's just me running this show and so far everyone has survived and the house is still standing. This week has been pretty good all in all. But when I sat down to write a post for today, I had nothing. And I mean nothing. In hopes of finding something to inspire me, I visited Facebook. Within 20 minutes, I cam across multiple articles that hit so close to home. I started to write a post about one in particular and decided instead to share a few links I connected to most. 

Can I tell you how many time James comes home and I'm beyond over my day? I know I take it out on him and let's face it, he is an innocent victim who happens to walk into a path of stray bullets. Not only do I take things out on him that he has no control over, but 5 out 7 days a week, I am in yoga pants, my hair in a ridiculous messy bun and I don't have a stitch of makeup on when he walks through the door. And regardless of my foul attitude and hot mess look, dude loves me. Loves me more than I deserve, for sure. 

How many times have you judged another Mom? I'm guilty of it, no doubt and if you say you don't or haven't, you are lying. It's in our nature to judge our peers one way or another. Why do we tear each other apart? We have enough on our plates, enough to live up to, the least we can do is unite and support each other. Let's not get so caught up in what so and so is doing that we forget that they have their own daily battles they are fighting. After reading this article, I made a vow to myself and to all the other Moms I spend my days with to love more and judge less.

I know married couples with children who haven't been a date in 3-5 years. They find it too difficult to find the time or a sitter or they could be doing this or that instead. Trust me when I say I know how hard it is to find time to go on a date. James is currently out of town and this is the 2nd full week this month he has been gone. We don't have family here to help with C so we depend on friends to watch him from time to time. Also, I'm a control freak (right Breann?) and worry about him when I'm away. But can I tell you, the time I have my husband to myself, the nights I get dolled up and we get to eat dinner sans child and spend time talking without interruption, are the most cherish moments of my marriage thus far.

After reading these articles, along with so many others, I was hit with this thought that I really need to refocus my time and energy. Sometimes it takes someone else's words to really hit home. I need to spend more quality time with my husband, disconnecting and giving him all my attention.. I need to let him love me - the good, the bad and the ugly. And boy, do I need to show him how much he means to Connor and I. Lastly, I need to rally around my fellow Mom friends and provide them with the same support and love that I would want others to give me. 

Here is some food for thought. Did any of these articles hit a chord with you? Are there areas of your life you should be focusing more of your energy? 
 

11 comments:

  1. Great thoughts/reminders to all of us married with children ladies!!

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  2. Thank you for these articles! I've seen quite a few that have stirred me lately too. I need to remember to let me husband love me, not always an easy thing to do :)

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  3. I need to make a babysitting fund.. that is the main reason we rarely go out ..I am CHEAP!

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  4. All of them! Especially the first one.

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  5. Oh yes! My husband and I are really trying to make time to date again. With 4 kids and really no family to help it's hard but we're trying--Can't wait for my oldest to be 16 ;)

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  6. I haven't read the first two, and clearly need to. But the third was so good.
    Yay for the hubs coming home today! Get some rest this weekend!

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  7. It can be so easy to be in a bad mood and just rant to your significant other all the time, but you are right, we should be appreciative that they are there listening! Sometimes they might have bad days too and need a shoulder to lean on.

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  8. I'm not married and I don't have children but your words were what hit me with a reminder to disconnect and refocus my time and energy. Exactly what I needed to hear, thank you!

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  9. Such a great synopsis ...thank you for this! I have seen these in newsfeeds and haven't opened them...obviously I should! I hope you get some rest this weekend!

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  10. Great finds! My hubby is so great at loving me. I'm definitely a person who appreciates gifts and he's been so great at that lately. I've read the stop mommy wars post before. So true! Hope you get some time to re-energize after your long week!

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  11. Sometimes it's hard to remember that we were wives before we were mommies isn't it??? Great post :)

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