Friday, December 13, 2013

How Things Change

If you would have know me before the husband, baby and stay at home gig, it would really surprise you to see how much I have changed. 

When I met James, I was engaged to someone else. Yeah, haven't shared that story before and it's far too complicated to get into today. I was engaged, James was separated from his wife (yet another bit of info you didn't know) and was my boss at work (guilty). I looked forward to Friday and kicking off the weekend first thing Monday morning. I spent my weekends with my girls Tracy and Kristin at Miami Valley Sports Bar (gag) or W.O's. (puke), drinking, dancing, drunk dialing and being a complete disaster. Weekend after weekend, I spent my nights out acting completely foolish and not giving a damn. I'd wake up the next day asking my girlfriends what had we done. I would check my cell's call history to calculate the damage that has been done. I was young and wanted nothing more than to enjoy every minute of my life, no matter what the consequences were. Yup, I was that girl.

Meeting James set into motion changes that I didn't know I needed, changes that I couldn't imagine enjoying or even wanting. James changed me. He made me realize that the girl who partied all weekend wasn't as cool as I thought she was. That there was much more potential in me than I had ever realized. Sure I had a good job and could support myself but instead of investing in my future, enjoying time with friends in ways that didn't include a $100 tab at a wine tasting, learning to love me, I was wasting time in bars, chasing boys who didn't know how great of a catch I really was (shameless). James challenged me in ways I had never been challenged before. I knew within months of meeting him that I loved him and he would be the man I married. Hands down, that's how much of an effect he had on me.

Our relationship wasn't one that was planned. Like I said, I had a ring on my finger from another guy. But meeting J, getting to know him and him knowing me, letting down the walls I had built around my heart, gave me the greatest since of freedom and love I had ever experienced. I realize that while it's fine to have get a little reckless from time to time, it's not really the best way to spend your weekend, week after week, month after month.

6 1/2 years later, I am married to the man of my dreams. We have the greatest little guy to love and raise. I spend my working hours as a stellar stay home mom. My girlfriends and I are closer than ever before. It's been nearly 2 years since I've drank to get drunk. Our weekends are far from what they were years ago. Tonight, we are taking C to visit Santa, Saturday is dinner with friends at our place and Sunday, I have a Mom's night out Christmas party.

If you would have told me in 2008 this is what I would be looking forward to, I would think you were drunk. But things changed. Times are different, I'm different. And when given the chance to be a 24 year old out with her friends in the Dub C or home with her husband and son, without hesitation, I pick a night in with my guys. 

My how things have change. 
Happy Friday, ya'll!


  1. I really enjoyed this post. Sometimes I feel like I'm in a quarter life crisis. I'm 23 and struggle with wanting to party like I'm in college still and being more responsible with my personal, romantic, and career decisions. Happy to read about someone who has been in the same spot I'm in at the moment

  2. You my dear, have a great life! I am so happy and proud of you!

    I know your story well;) It was fun to read your recount!

    Here's to you, Jamrs, and your beautiful boy

    I love all three!

  3. I love it that life doesn't turn out the way we thought it would :)

  4. You're right, times certainly do change and life can take you places you never thought you'd be! We all have our pasts and learn from our mistakes. This was so interesting to read. Thanks for sharing this part of your life with us!

  5. I much prefer my life now and quiet nights home with my little family than going out to bars and meeting douchey guys. I never even enjoyed it much back then.

  6.'s like you got your own happy ending! Nice to see that things change, isn't it?

  7. Holy smokes… This was me (is me). There are so many similarities here, it's almost scary.
    Isn't is amazing what the RIGHT person can do to you/with you/for you?
    Happy Friday!

  8. Yep! Next year is my 10 year college reunion and my girlfriends and I are all like, do we bring our husbands and kids? :-)


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