Thursday, October 10, 2013

SAHM + OCD + Baby = Lists!

I don’t know why it is, but I feel like I am in a constant state of trying to organize something.

I’m the type of person who can’t seem to get anything accomplished unless everything in my home is put away and the floors and counters are clutter free, wiped down and shining bright. I can’t bring myself to sit down to write a blog post unless the area around me is completely organized. I should probably also add that I’m a list-maker. I make lists for everything–before I start cleaning, I make a list of exactly what I need to clean; before I start working on a task for this blog or for our Mom group MNO/MNI, I have to make a list of exactly everything I need to do in order to complete the task. Some people might look at this and think, well, at least you’re organized. The problem is I spend so much time writing and revising my lists, that by the time I’m ready to actually carry out the tasks that are listed on those lists, I’ve burnt out. Or it’s time to play with Connor or give him a bath. Or I need to cook dinner. Or the usual, it's 11PM and I'm exhausted.

I am a stay at home mom. The main reason I quit my job was so that I could spend as much quality time as possible with Connor. This, however, does not mean I have the luxury of spending every moment of every day in an state of play. I have what seems like a never ending list of housework to do every day, plus I am trying to flex my “blogging muscles” and make this blog successful. During the almost (!!) year that I’ve been home, I’ve accepted the fact that I have to plan my schedule according to Connor's schedule. Luckily he’s a good sleeper, so nap time is when I am able to complete the majority of the day’s tasks. One problem I regularly face is deciding which tasks to tackle: do I shower, or do I clean the shower? Do I fold clothes or clean our master bedroom closet that resembles the aftermath of Hurricane Katrina? I could (and sometimes do) work on things while Connor is awake, but he is an active 11-month-old boy who can’t exactly be left to entertain himself while I work on chores.

One of the things I’m going to try to accomplish with my blog is to set (and reach) a goal to finally get myself organized in a way in which I can be productive in all of my responsibilities–this includes running my household and running my personal life. You know one that doesn't include baby or husband. You're shocked? Yes, those lives do exist. Or at least I'm told they do. I’m going to try to make it a priority to take one area of my life at a time and give myself little “mini-makeovers” in order to slowly eliminate the chaos that I seem to create for myself by trying to do everything at once.

The first step I’ve taken in this attempt is to make a (you guessed it) list of everything I’d like to accomplish on a daily basis. These tasks include:
  • Household chores
  • Preventing laundry from becoming unmanageable
  • Exercise (what the hell is that?)
  • Research activities for Silly Sprouts (Mom group)
  • Write blog posts
  • Play with Connor (take him to the park, story time, etc.)
  • Shower (You would be surprised how easily this can get put on the back burner.)
  • Eat (See previous item.)
I actually kick started this life overhaul on Monday. What better task to start with than showering. First thing in the morning, before Connor is even awake. It means I have to set an alarm and get up a least an hour before him but words can't describe how much more human I feel now that I am dressed and "dolled up" for the day. 

Being a stay at home mom is a job. One that takes more balance, discipline, time management and heart that any other occupation I had before. And it's worth every single one of those unfinished lists.

5 comments:

  1. So I don't claim to be an expert but I'm happy to share things I do to attempt to balance those 3 worlds! It got easier right around the age conner is and even easier once Callie started walking. I am a HUGE advocate of getting up before the kiddo wakes - i've been doing it since Callie was like 3mo old and it makes a world of difference on my outlook on the day. Other things - Does Connor like showers? You could shower with him. Callie has been sorting laundry with me since 5mo old - we use it to talk about colors and counting. Callie also really likes to do what i'm doing so I've found ways to include her in housework and she has more fun with that than when I try to get her to play on her own (which she will do). Message me if you want to brainstorm! Happy thoughts your way as you work for your balance!!

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  2. It gets a little easier as they get a little older. Henry helps me daily with laundry (he likes to put the clothes in the washer and dryer) and we pretty much have showered together since he was old enough to sit up on his own and not fall over. He helps me match socks, cook dinner (even if it's just stirring a pot with some water in it, he's happy), he picks up his own toys, helps me in the garden. Sure, everything takes a lot longer to do, but to him it's pretty much play, but for me, things get done.

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  3. Again, you wrote my thoughts down, pretty much verbatim.

    So much of my daily to-do stuff happens while Marcus is awake and entertaining himself (like, climbing the couches, playing in the toilet, etc.), or eating. I'm able to get some dusting done, or a floor swept.

    I like to use M's naps for my blogging time. It's quiet, and I'm able to sit down and read/respond/write.

    Oh, and if you're looking for other things to organize... My house is all yours! :)

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  4. I'd love to get up before Aria, and tell myself all the time to start, but never happens. I hate mornings.
    And, taking the time to get dressed and look put together really does wonders doesn't it? Not that it happens all that often around here.
    Good luck with your little mini makeovers!

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  5. Great post. I'm working on all these things to. I'd love to figure out a way to blog more. If you figure out a way, please share!

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